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12 Sex Positions That Will Make You Actually Enjoy Shower Sex

And a few tips for making it less...uncomf.

If you've ever had shower sex that made you feel like a wet chihuahua—shivering, uncomfortable, awk AF—you're not alone. Getting dirty in the place that gets you clean is far more complicated than any rom-com (side-eyeing you, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, Friends With Benefits) or porno suggests.

For one, it's slip central (tile + water + bouncing bodies = you better have health insurance). Two, water is not (I repeat, NOT) a lubricant—in fact, it can actually make you feel more dry than wet (I know, the irony). And last but not least, there is absolutely nothing sexy about accidentally taking a gulp of hot water up your nose or in your mouth when you're trying to get your O on.

But before you cross shower sex off your sex bucket list for good, you may want to give it another go. "Shower sex can be really hot because it has a sense of urgency to it—you're not going to stay in there for an hour," says Janet Brito, PhD, a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu, Hawaii. "Plus, hot water is relaxing and sensual, and seeing each other naked and wet can be a huge turn-on."

Shower sex may be the one time parents have enough privacy to indulge in a quickie sesh, Brito explains. If you've got kiddos constantly running around or if you're living with roommates, parents, etc., hopping in the shower might be the only time you can fit in your interruption-free, one-on-one time with bae.

Ready for some steamy shower sex? These tips will make shower sex hotter—and safer:

Add a non-slip bath mat.
This one's a no-brainer, but you probably don't have one, do you? A rubber bath mat with suction cups will give you and your partner real foot traction. It's the only way to safely tackle shower sex, since just worrying about slipping is enough to keep you from climaxing. Try this top-rated one from Gorilla Grip.
Start when you're already turned on.
Foreplay isn't the easiest thing to get going in the shower—there's not a lot of space to be creative. If you can, before you get to the real steamy stuff, Brito suggests first having play time in the bedroom or bathroom (making out, touching) until you're both raring to go. Bonus: You'll save water. (Yay for being green!)
Have a designated foot stand.
If you don't have a luxe bathroom setup with a built-in bench (if you do, I'm jealous), investing in a water-resistant seat or foot stand will seriously expand the range of shower sex positions you can break into. A wooden one with wide slats works well (just keep it out of the direct water stream as much as possible).

Avoid oils, but use lube.
Sudsing up with a bath oil can be hot, but it can also make things very, very slippery. You do want to bring in a silicone-based or natural lube, though—despite being a liquid, water can actually create more friction between you and your partner's genitals. So grab the lube, and apply carefully to both of your nether regions before you step into the shower (so it doesn't drip onto the floor, making it slick), says Brito.
Mind your leg position.
When your body overheats (which it definitely can in a steamy shower), your muscles get lax and you can pass out—eeek. It doesn't happen often, but to be extra-cautious, make sure your and your partner's knees are never locked out for max stability.
Point the shower head toward your torso or legs (if you can).
Angle the water to hit against your and your partner's backs, chests, and legs instead of faces or heads. And point it so that it's not directly hitting your genitals—as mentioned, shower water can cause more friction than fun slip-and-sliding.
Bring toys into the equation.
Brito suggests incorporating some form of water-proof vibrator or anal plug into your shower sex routine if you're feeling a little more adventurous. Having a vibe on-hand will also take away the pressure of finding the absolute perfect position for penetration and, instead, gives you and your partner the chance to stimulate each other in a different way.
Use soap for sexy exploration.
Important: Sex doesn't need to include penetration in order to be intimate. Take some super foamy soap and use it to explore each other's bodies through gentle touching and massaging. Sometimes this kind of relaxed intimacy can feel *even better* than the (at times) complicated AF penetration you're used to thinking of when it comes to shower sex.
Shower sex doesn't need to be in-person.
If you're not physically with your partner right now, Brito says there's a way to work around this issue. "With the right equipment, you can certainly set up your tripod and camera, point and record, while your beau watches you lather yourself with soap in all the right places. You could also use your vibrator or your shower head to put on a show," she explains.
You'll still need to wash up afterward.
Brito explains that when having shower sex you still need to be mindful of personal hygiene and safety the same way you would with any other sexual activity. That includes using condoms or dams!

Now that you know how to have hot shower sex, here are the best shower sex positions to tackle tonight (and tomorrow morning, and the next...):

1.Stand And Deliver

This position gives you tons of G-spot and clitoral stimulation, so you can get in and out of the shower (read: reach orgasm) fast. You can either place your hands onto the shower wall for support—or if your partner has good traction (that grippy bath mat, people!), let them grip your wrists to up the ante.

Do It: With both your and your partner’s feet planted firmly on the mat, turn away from your companion and lean into the wall, pressing your palms against it and tilting your butt upward and out. Your partner should enter you from behind, thrusting with their hands anchored on your hips, breasts, clit, whatever. Option to remove your hands once you find your balance (it's just like yoga).

Erotic massage is one of the most luxurious forms of 'foreplay' there is. Getting ready to have sex - whatever "sex" to you means, whether that's fingering, oral or penetration) doesn’t just to have involve making out like you're 16 again. Erotic massage is the perfect way to connect physically and emotionally, as well as turn someone on.

Lovehoney sex expert Annabelle Knight explains how to give a super sexy erotic massage. Whatever you do afterwards is totally up to you...

"The majority of our everyday communication is non-verbal and body language plays a huge part in how we communicate and understand other people," Annabelle says. "It should, therefore, make sense that massage, one of the most intimate kinds of touch, is a good way of communicating with your lover. Each caress, stroke and rub can be used to say anything from 'I adore your body' to 'I hope you had a good day at work'."

So while massage is obviously great because it loosens tension and relieves physical pain, it can also "help unblock their mind - as they focus less on the pain and the stress associated with it," Annabelle adds.

Whether you decide to give their whole body some attention, or just their hands or back, here's what you'll need to prepare.

You don't need a huge flat or spare bedroom to give an erotic massage in, as long as the space you do have is nice and relaxed (and comfy). Whether you're planning to massage your partner in your bedroom or living room, as long as you get the atmosphere down, you're good to go.

Temperature. "To help set the mood you might want to start by making the room warm," Annabelle suggests. As your partner's probably going to be naked (or at least semi-naked), you want to make sure the environment is as comfortable as possible.

Lighting. "You’ll also want to dim the lights or light some candles. Harsh lighting can be an uncomfortable distraction during massage, so bring in a little bit of romance with some fairy lights or candles."

Massage lotion

"One of the most important parts of your massage is a slippery oil or lotion that will let your hands glide across their body, and leave their skin feeling smooth and nourished," she says. You could use regular massage oil, but if you work on your partner with a lickable massage oil, you'll know it's safe to come into contact with more... delicate areas of the body, too.

Initial touch. She says, "The first few touches you make should be long, lingering and purposeful. Psychologically speaking, firm contact will reassure your partner and make them feel safe (think of how a strong handshake makes an impression on a business partner).

Apply the massage oil/lotion. This will get their skin warmed up. "Your hands should be flat but your fingers should be relaxed, allowing them to splay, and follow the natural contours of your partner’s body."

Fingertips. You might be tempted to start off massaging intensely and deeply, but the opposite can be more exciting and arousing. Annabelle recommends, "Using your fingertips, trace the contours of your partner’s body. Run your fingers through their hair, gently graze their neck with the pads of your fingers or follow the smooth curves of their lips with your thumbs. This soft touching will give great results and allow you to move your touch from one area of the body to another fluidly."

Kneading thumbs. "Pressing, kneading and rolling the thumbs against the body is a great way to workout tension in the muscles," she adds. "Press your thumbs against any body part and smoothly move them away from you, using the full extension of your thumbs. Moving each thumb, one after the other creates a continuous rolling sensation that will really get rid of knots and tight spots. This works especially well on the back, shoulders, feet and thighs."

So, that should have got you firmly in the zone to take it from "massage" to "erotic massage". What you do next is totally up to you, but if you want to draw the suspense and sexual tension out even longer, there are some amazing things you can do that don't involve penetration.

A Growing Genre of Porn Can Teach You How to Be Better in Bed

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